This Is The Only Reason You Shouldn’t Have Sex On The First Date

There are many reasons to not have sex on the first date. But the most common reason that girls tend to give is that giving it up too soon somehow cheapens us in a guy’s eyes. We don’t want to come off as “easy” or “not relationship material,” so even if we’d rather just go for it, many of us shy away.

Hello? This is 2016. We’ve past the days when women weren’t allowed to enjoy sex, and when sex before marriage made you an outcast of society. Why should sex on the first date eliminate your chances as a potential girlfriend? The only reason having sex on a first date should ruin chances of a relationship is if it ends up being bad sex — and even in that case, shouldn’t you be glad you figured it out early?

I believe all of this whole-heartedly. And yet, I don’t have sex on the first date. Am I a hypocrite? I don’t think so. I’ve never counted down a magic number to determine when the “right” time to have sex is so that my date will magically fall in love with me, and I’ve never pretended I wasn’t horny.

The reason I waited until the fourth date to have sex with my current boyfriend is because I knew I wouldn’t enjoy it on the first date. Because I waited until the fourth date to fuck my boo, the sex was absolutely mind-blowing, and made me want to stick around.

Instead of thinking about sex as some sort of chess game where you have to give away the perfect amount at the perfect time to make sure a guy doesn’t bolt, think of it this way: when will you enjoy it most?

Instead of wishing for every guy you meet to fall madly in love with you, why don’t you think about what you want? You shouldn’t be wanting a boyfriend until you find the right guy, and you shouldn’t be wanting sex unless you’re god damn horny. If you changed everything about you to make yourself “girlfriend material,” there wouldn’t be much of you left. Why is this any different when it comes to your sexual preferences?


So why don’t you start worrying about your own satisfaction and standards rather than following the rules from an antiquated and gender-biased system? If you want to have sex on the first date, fucking do it. It may blossom into a beautiful relationship after all and if it doesn’t, then it wasn’t meant to be.

And if you don’t want to have sex on the 10th date? Don’t do it, and don’t care if that guy goes back to his friends and calls you a prude. It’s your body, and you should be using it to satisfy yourself.

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