6 Signs Youâ€™re In Denial That Youâ€™re Catching Feelings
Catching feelings can be scary. Thatâ€™s probably why we call it â€œcatching feelingsâ€ these days, as if itâ€™s an incurable disease, rather than â€œfalling in love.â€ Itâ€™s become so unpopular to actually have feelings for someone that when you do actually find a decent dude who starts to tug at your heart strings, youâ€™re in denial. Sorry to break it to you, but everybody can probably see right through you, and hereâ€™s why:`
1. You Over-Defend Your Feelings
Once your friends notice that youâ€™ve been seeing the same dude for a few weeks, the questions start coming. â€œDo you like like him?â€ â€œDo you see a future with him?â€ â€œIs he a fuckboy or nah?â€ The list goes on. Instead of casually answering these questions with a simple yes or a no, you find the need to over-defend yourself to friends who swear that theyâ€™ve never seen you act this way about a guy.
â€œNo way, Iâ€™m not into him like that,â€ you claim. â€œBesides, heâ€™s like way too blonde for me, and heâ€™s graduating in a year so who knows if heâ€™ll move away. I only keep him around because the dick is bomb.â€
Instead of listing the reasons why it wonâ€™t work out or why it doesnâ€™t make sense for you to be into him, face the music and realize that you are totally crushing on somebody.
2. You Play Hard To Get
Youâ€™re not into games normally, which is why playing hard to get is not usually your go-to move. But, because youâ€™re into this dude, you end up forcing yourself to talk to other dudes, avoid making plans with your crush, etc. Because another date or â€œhang-outâ€ or quickie with him could mean that youâ€™re just going to fall deeper, and youâ€™d rather hide out in your bed with Netflix and snacks until these â€œooey-gooeyâ€ feelings go away.
3. It Takes Physical Effort NotÂ To Text Him BackÂ
You know those times where you leave your phone on the table, or bed, or wherever and you can just see the screen but itâ€™s not within your reach? Youâ€™ve gotten to the point where you can basically recognize his name flashing on your phone just from the shape of the letters. Obviously, you wonâ€™t admit this to anyone, and when his name flashes, youâ€™ll play the waiting game and try to occupy yourself with other things (i.e: scrolling Instagram) before clicking on his message and checking out what he has to say.
4. You Look For Minor Flaws
Much like your earlier excuses for why you canâ€™t have a future with him, you search for excuses as to why you shouldnâ€™t like him. As you scroll back to his Facebook photos from 2009, you see that he once wore a Taking Back Sunday T-shirt and decide thatâ€™s a deal breaker. Or perhaps you notice that he has ugly feet, or still plays Angry Birds, or does CrossFit. Whatever it is, itâ€™s probably not a valid reason for why you canâ€™t be into somebody, but you try to make it logical in your head so that you can convince yourself to stop having butterflies in your stomach every time you see him.
5. You Swipe Your Ass Off
Another easy way to distract yourself from the guy youâ€™re currently crushing on is to browse a bunch of other potential baeâ€™s, and what better way to do that quickly than downloading Tinder? Even if you opt for Bumble or Hinge, itâ€™s the same idea. Unfortunately no matter how many hot matches you accumulate, itâ€™s probably not going to erase your feelings.
6. You Avoid â€œDateâ€ TypeÂ Outings
If you and your dudeâ€™s hangouts have consisted of drunken late nights together and the occasional Netflix session, youâ€™ll probably freak out a little when he asks you out to breakfast one morning. If you were accepting of the fact that you like this guy, youâ€™d probably be excited that heâ€™s asking you on a â€œrealâ€ date. But, since youâ€™re in denial, youâ€™re freaked the fuck out. Youâ€™ll likely make up some excuse about something you have to do in the morning to get out of Bacon and bae, because the idea of going on a real date with this guy just makes your relationship all the more real.