How To Respond When a Guy Asks For Nudes
I know what you’re probably thinking: “how are guys still straight up asking girls for nudes?” But, unfortunately, it’s an epidemic. And more and more girls, especially young girls, don’t know how TF to respond.
How do I know this? Because Galore’s analytics show that many of our readers have Googled “how to respond when he asks for nudes” or some variation of that.
It seems simple. If you don’t want to send nudes, you should just straight up say “no” or even “fuck off,” but that’s easier said than done.
After all, what if you really like the guy and don’t want him to think you’re not interested? Or that you’re boring? Or what if it’s someone who you might need a favor from — like a co-worker or a classmate with an aunt that works at Vogue?
Obviously, none of these are reasons to send a nude to guy when you don’t want to, but it definitely makes rejecting the douchebag a lot more difficult.
Just remember through it all that if he’s asking for nudes, you shouldn’t give a fuck what he thinks — or if he likes you.
It can be tempting to want to “win over” or “change” a fuckboy, especially if you love the chase, but sending a nude isn’t going to win him over, it’s just going to show him that you’re willing to do whatever TF he says and that he’s got you on a string.
Also, the type of guy that asks you for nudes is not the type of guy who you want in your social circle or in your life — and definitely not in your bed.
Obviously, the majority of guys would like to receive a nude, and there’s nothing wrong with that. The difference is the dudes that have the audacity to ask out of the blue. They are always bad news and they clearly DGAF about you if they’re not worried that their begging for nudes will turn you away.
Scrap these apologetic answers out for something a little better.
Instead of: I’m out right now!
Yes, all lowercase and with the period. It adds shade and shows that you laugh at the thought of ever sending him nudes or getting sexual with him in general. You’re not laughing with him, you’re laughing at him.
Instead of: Sorry, I am not comfortable with that
Say: Fuck off.
You do not have to apologize for refusing to send a guy a nude! He should be apologizing for being gross enough to ask you for them. And you shouldn’t accept the apology anyway.
Instead of: How do I know you won’t show your friends?
Say: Hard pass.
If you have to ask him if he’s going to show his friends, you already know he’s going to. Seriously, everyone shares nudes. Although if you did send a nude and some fucker is spreading it, you can sue him!
Instead of: You’re going to have to work more for it
Say: You don’t deserve it and never will : )
Some girls try to play it off in a flirty way and act like a guy has to “earn” their nudes. This isn’t necessarily wrong, but it’s more about earning your trust than buying you a bottle of Dom at the club. Telling a guy he has to work for it just means he’s going to do stuff for you and then hassle you even more. The bottom line is no guy is entitled to nude photos of you and you’re allowed to tell him that.