Guys Claim They DGAF if Their Friends Like You
When a dude invites you to some type of outing where you’ll be meeting his friends, it can feel pretty exciting.
Like, hey, you’re not just going to be the girl who leaves his place in last night’s outfit at 10 a.m. on Saturday mornings, you’re actually going to be introduced to his friends as a real person!
At the same time, it can be kind of nerve-wracking. What if his friends suck? Or they think your man’s ex GF was more “down to hang” cuz she could shotgun a beer?
Well, next time you have to go meet a dude’s friends, stop stressing yourself out so much about if you and his friends will be BFFs, because apparently your guy doesn’t really care.
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Like, obviously, he wants his friends to think you’re hot, and it’s a bonus if they think you’re cool. But, according to guys on Reddit, it doesn’t make or break a relationship at all – as long as you can remain civil with each other, of course.
“It’s more important for my friends get along with my SO,” said Reddit user Russki. “When I married her, it was clear (at least to me) that she will be my priority. So far no issues, they all really like her.”
Okay, well, you and your current boo are probs not married, but the message is the same. If you’re a priority (which you should be), it’s more about his friends making an effort to get a long with you, not the other way around.
“It’s not a big deal,” said Reddit user B0000000BS. “She has to be able to tolerate hanging out with my friends, because that will inevitably happen sometimes. She doesn’t have to actually like them or make much of an effort to be engaging.”
LOL, cross your effort to be engaging off the list! Not that you would want his friends to hate you, but if for some reason they do, it’s probably still not a deal breaker.
“My best friend’s girlfriend seems to hate all of his friends, myself included,” said Reddit user lbspredh. “They have been together almost 10 years now and I think this can work, but only if she isn’t trying to stop the man hanging out with his friends, with my best friend she just doesn’t get involved.”
Good rule. Obvi if you hate his friends and are trying to ban him from hanging out with them, that’s kind of psycho and you’re not psycho so you’d never do that – right? Unless of course, every time he hangs with his friends they force him to bang randos and spend all his money on cocaine. But, if your boo is that easily pressured, you probs don’t want to date him anyway!
Another point is that, chances are, your BF doesn’t want you getting all chummy with his bros. They don’t need a girl in their gang, and probs feel similar to how your girlfriends feel when you ask if your BF can come along to your girls’ night.
“In my main group of friends, we don’t normally have girlfriends integrate,” said Reddit user SalamanderSylph. “We became friends at an all boys grammar school and like to bant each other with very personal things. Having new people around would mean we can’t bring up certain amusing topics from our history.”
Also, let’s not forget the fact that a guys friends really can’t be trusted not to try to bang you. If not while you’re dating, then after you break up – which, let’s be real, will probs happen eventually!