How to tell if your bae is a secret sociopath
Everyone throws the terms psychopath and sociopath around. But these are actual psychological conditions that affect real people — and those people are you’ve met a few of them IRL. Or even dated them. *cue scary movie music*
If you’re suspicious about your new relationship, and whether or not the person you’re dating might actually be a sociopath or psychopath, look no further than the new show “Couple Thinkers.”
The show stars standup comedian, writer, actor and talk show host Craig Ferguson and his wife, Megan Ferguson, in her onscreen debut. It’s co-produced by lifestyle brand GANT.
In one episode, Craig and Megan ask author (known for “The Men Who Stare at Goats” and “The Psychopath”) Jon Ronson about how to spot a psychopath.
Below, we highlighted some of the main hints Jon points out, so you can evaluate whether or not you’re actually dating a psychopath before actually getting into a serious relationship with them. Once you learn to spot them, you will spot them everywhere!
If you’re suspicious about your new relationship, and whether or not the person you’re dating might actually be one, this episode provides all the information you need to find out for yourself. Below, we highlighted some of the main hints Jon points out, so you can evaluate whether or not you’re actually dating a psychopath, before actually getting into a serious relationship with them. (Things will turn ugly, real fast.) Once you learn to spot them, you will spot them everywhere!
The semi-good news is most psychopaths aren’t killers. However, there is currently no cure for psychopathy.
1. 1% of the general public is a psychopath, but 4% of CEOS and business leaders are.
So keep that in mind next time you’re on Seeking Arrangement scoping out a potential sugar daddy.
2. 60% of psychopaths WILL reoffend.
So there really is no point in trying to help one, or fix a relationship with one. If you can tell a guy has no remorse for his shitty actions, don’t wait for him to change — no matter how much he swears he will.
3. They have no memory for punishment and empathy.
They will continue to treat you like sh*t, but won’t apologize for it. They won’t even know what they’re doing hurts you.
4. They’re impulsive.
“They have no empathy for their future selves,” Jon says. Meaning that they truly don’t care about the consequences of their actions. They don’t know how their actions will effect other people, and themselves, in the long run.
5. But they do know what does benefits them in the long run.
They don’t always have short-term memory. They know that manipulation gets them what they want, and will keep a partner hooked to them forever.
6. They have poor behavioral controls.
“They lash things out, because they don’t think things through,” Jon explains. Psychopaths will do anything to control you, but in reality, they have no control over themselves. You’ll watch them experience random bursts of anger and frustration, kind of like temper tantrums. And good luck trying to calm them down.
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7. Unlike narcissists, they’re emotionally deficient.
“The manifestation is similar, the grandiosity, the core of it,” Jon explains. But the real different lies in the motivation for their actions. Psychopaths act in the ways they do because they do lack empathy and emotion. On the other hand, narcissists are the opposite. Their actions are driven by the fact that they have too many emotions, and that’s why they lash out.
So, if this article has made you discover that your bae is in fact a psychopath, what do you do now?
“Leave, you can’t hurt their feelings because there are no feelings to hurt,” Jon said. If you get too attached to one, you’ll discover the crushing feeling of investing so much emotion into someone who really doesn’t give a sh*t about you.