You’re not a gold digger if you refuse to date broke guys
I generally have a positive outlook towards all of the guys my friends decide to spend time with, but I do have one rule and that is to make sure you aren’t dating broke.
People think this sort of thinking is materialistic, wrong and shallow. But I am adamant about women weeding the weak and broke guys from their dating pool and not feeling ashamed about doing so.
The consistent need to stroke your broke boyfriend’s ego is actually toxic as hell. Refusing to date men who aren’t financially stable doesn’t make you materialistic or high maintenance. Down the road, being nice isn’t going to be able to pay your bills and take care of your family.
Research has shown that married women earn less and those with children, even lower. They are looked at to be less focused on work, and more on the family and as a result don’t get paid fairly. With that being said, doesn’t it make sense that women aiming to get married should date men who can balance this out by being more financially adept?
Not to mention, we all know how weird guys are about feeling masculine. A guy who doesn’t make a lot of money is at a risk of feeling emasculated by this, and guess who’s gonna have to pick up the emotional pieces? You. But in my experience, dating someone who is successful takes this issue of toxic masculinity out of the equation. Whether he is flying you to your favorite destination for your birthday, or paying for everyone’s bill when you go out to eat with friends, it doesn’t really matter, this type of stuff will make him feel “manly” so you don’t have to.
The inability to perform basic boyfriend duties can put a bitter taste on your relationship. Unless he’s super well-adjusted, he will always need you to stroke his ego, and in the name of love you will. You may even feel like you’re emasculating your man and that is not the goal in a relationship, period! It’ll soon become the norm for you to take care of everything whilst you’re pining away for your dream guy, who won’t ever come if you continue at this rate, honey.
Your friends will get tired of hearing about you complaining about your cheap ass boyfriend and the weird things he does that they can’t relate to. Sex and Netflix will be the norm of your relationship, and the gag? He doesn’t even tell people you’re dating. You’ve settled and there’s no reason to do so.
My advice is if you’re looking for a long-term relationship that will lead to something solid like marriage, leave the always-broke guys on Tinder. At a certain age, you shouldn’t be messing with guys who are unable to support themselves. What would your dad think of your couch to couch hipster boyfriend? Society likes to shame women into settling when it comes to men, but remember: you don’t need to stay in a relationship that isn’t improving your life. When it comes to things like marriage and raising a family, sometimes love just ain’t enough.