How To Have Non-Painful Sex With a Well-Endowed Dude
Finding a dude with a big dick is a blessing and a curse.
On one hand, who doesn’t love to play with a huge wang? On the other hand, you are a delicate creature, and sometimes you’re just not fit to take such a big cock. Even if you can take it, sometimes it’s so big that it’s more painful than enjoyable. So, what to do? We consulted Dr. Jess O’Reilly, Astroglide’s Resident Sex & Relationship Expert, and the internet, about how to have pleasurable sex when his dick is simply too big.
Lube Is Your Friend
Lube is not only reserved for dried up old ladies and anal sex. In fact, if you’re sexually active and experimental, you should have lube on hand at all times.
One of these times where lube can become really useful is when you’re trying to fit something big into a small hole, hence why it’s so popular for anal play. A dime sized amount should help your new boy toy’s big member slide painlessly into you, specifically if the pain your feeling is due to his girth.
If you’re hesitant about lube, first make sure you’re producing enough vaginal lubrication on your own. One of the reasons that his P may be hurting your V so much is because he’s not giving you enough foreplay and not getting you wet enough to handle his huge manhood.
Get a Donut For His Dick
If you’re thinking of that donut blowjob trick, this is not it. However, a Not-So-Deep Donut is super useful if your man’s penis penetrates you too deeply during sex.
“A Not-So-Deep Donut sits at the base of the penis to limit the depth of penetration,” Dr. Jess tells Galore. “The penis still benefits from the full thrusting motion as well as the added pressure and tightness around the base.”
Obviously, for your well-endowed one night stand, you may feel awkward pulling out a cock-ring from your nightstand. If your big-cocked man is a boyfriend or long term partner though, he should understand and be willing to try this out. Who knows, he might like it!
Find a New Favorite Position
If you used to love missionary, you may not love it so much now that it gives your man full range to plunge his 12-incher into you. Try going on top, where you can control the speed and depth of penetration. Or, try this T-Bone position from The New Sex Bible, suggested by Dr. Jess:
- She lies on her back with her knees bent and her feet spread apart flat on the mattress.
- He lies on his side at a right angle to her body (to form the top of the tee) and slides his body under the bridge of her bent legs.
- She presses her hips up slightly as he slides in from beneath her. As they rock and thrust in rhythm, their fingers can dance over her clit or they can hold hands and gaze into one another’s eyes.
Okay, you definitely don’t have to hold hands and gaze into each other’s eyes, but you get the idea.
Put Pleasure Over Penetration
You may hear your favorite porn stars begging for it “harder” and “deeper,” but deeper doesn’t necessarily mean better. Plus porn isn’t real.
“Shallow penetration is, in fact, ideal for many people regardless of penis size,” explains Dr. Jess. “Not only are the most responsive nerve endings of the vagina located in the outer third (sometimes referred to as the orgasmic platform), but other hot-spots like the G-Spot and the frenulum of the penis light up with pleasure at a shallow depth.”
Don’t View Penetration As The End Goal
The end goal is your orgasm, not the deepest possible penetration you can manage before having to go to the hospital.
There are so many fun sexual activities to engage in with a partner that don’t necessarily involve vaginal sex (and no, I’m not referring to anal sex, ‘cuz you’d probably die). Practice your blow job skills and make your boy perfect his oral technique. Have him watch you play with yourself. Break out some toys, preferably some dildos that aren’t ginormous like his dick. The sky is the limit. If you can’t have fun wit his big P in your tiny V, find another way to have fun that sexually satisfies the both of you (or at least you).
