Hayley Kiyoko’s “Sleepover” Is About Falling For Your Bestie
Tumblr once named Hayley Kiyoko as “queen of the gays” because of her ability to express the true struggles of those in the LGBTQ+ community. In her latest music video for her song “Sleepover,” she lives up to just this title as she conveys one of the most difficult things that LGBTQ+ youth often come across.
With lyrics like “You want to be friends forever / I can think of something better”, the visual masterpiece expresses the struggles of falling in love with your best friend in the most painfully beautiful way. Unrequited love is something that nearly everyone can relate to, but it’s not exactly the same for those in the LGBTQ+ community who may fall for someone who will never be able to return that love in quite the same way.
“But at least I got you in my head,” Hayley sings passionately over scenes of herself picturing intimate moments with a friend. The lyrics and visual aid express the bittersweet notion that even if she can’t be with the person she loves in real life, she at least has the ability to be with them in her mind.
The song is close to Hayley’s heart and much to that of the LGBTQ+ community as it is not just a story, but real life to so many people.
“I grew up a dreamer and found comfort through a safe haven in my head. It’s where I was able to find self-love and feel validated,” Hayley wrote on Tumblr about the video. “This music video validates those feelings for me, even if in those moments the girl I fell for was unavailable. I made this video to help validate those fantasies. To create a space for the lovers, dreamers and seekers. Falling in love can be a bittersweet feeling, especially if you know it’ll never be reciprocated.”
“Sleepover” sheds a light on a battle that most in our vastly heterosexual society wouldn’t typically think much about. Combating the love and dating field is difficult for everyone, but it is especially difficult for those who struggle to find others like them. That is why this video is so important, it brings attention to something that many would not ever consider because they have never experienced it. But even if we may never experience it, at least we can try to sympathize with and understand it.
Check out the video below.