How To Make a Non-Well-Endowed Dude Go a Long Way

Finding a great guy is hard. Finding a great guy with a cute smile, sweet personality, unwavering loyalty, and a big dick is even harder.

Sometimes you have to make sacrifices. It’s not that you would ever settle, but in most instances a guy who’s faithful and caring trumps a shady dude with a huge cock.

But when it does come to getting it on, how do you make sure that you’re not sad in the sack? While we’re always team motion in the ocean rather than team size of the boat, when you’re used to a bigger dick a smaller one can feel kind of underwhelming.

We spoke to sex therapist Dr. Carlyle Jansen about how to make a little penis go a long way.

1. Pick a Perfect Position

You know when you’re hooking up with a dude that’s too big and you find that you can’t do certain positions without it being painful? When you’re with a smaller guy, you can finally do all of those crazy deep positions without worrying that you need to go to the ER.

Some positions that Carlyle suggests are missionary, girl on top, and doggy style — but with a few modifications.

With missionary, Carlyle suggests putting your legs up over your head (or as far as you can semi-comfortably). Believe it or not, missionary is one of the most orgasmic positions. If he penetrates you shallowly from this angle, he’ll likely stimulate your G-spot perfectly. If you’re into some sexual furniture, Carlyle says that a liberator ramp works great in this position.

To maximize your guy’s size during doggy style, make sure he has some height on you. If he’s not taller than you, squat down so that it feels like he is. By ensuring that he’s at an angle, he’ll feel larger than if he were going in straight.

2. Ain’t Nothing But a G Thang

If you’ve never found a guy who could stimulate your G spot, it’s time. As demonstrated in Dr. Carlyle’s video below, the G spot is actually reached shallowly, so longer/bigger isn’t always better in this case.

“Angling his penis towards [your] g-spot will make his penis feel larger, and actually a smaller or average [sized penis] sometimes feels even better with that angle than a larger one,” says Dr. Carlyle.

3. Have Second Thoughts About Butt Stuff

Double penetration may have once seemed like a scary and/or painful experience, but if your dude’s equipment isn’t huge it shouldn’t feel that way. “Putting a plug in a woman’s butt will make the vagina narrower and make vaginal stimulation feel larger,” explains Dr. Carlyle.

Your man doesn’t have to know that you’re suddenly into butt stuff because of his tiny package, but he’ll likely be more than eager to start getting into anal play. Plus, if he’s into having anal you can always have him penetrate you anally while you use a different toy to penetrate you vaginally. It’s easy to find a dick that’s the right size when you’re shopping for it, after all.

4. Focus On The Clit

If you’re like 70% of women, you likely need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. In fact, it can be argued that clitoral stimulation is more important than penetration in many cases.

Dr. Carlyle suggests using a vibrating cock ring in order to focus your orgasm on your clit. That way, it won’t matter as much how big or small your man is, all that matters is that he’s hitting the right spots when he thrusts in and out.

5. Toys R Us 

Like any sexual problems within a relationship, a smaller penis can be solved with the help of some toys and sexual accessories. If you’re worried about bringing toys into the bedroom and hurting your man’s feelings, make him feel like the toys are for both of your benefit (and orgasms).

“Penises love vibration on the frenulum (the upside down V on the underside of the penis head), along the raphe (seam that goes along the underside), against the testicles (on a low setting), and behind the testicles where the base of the penis is buried deeply (not with the pointy end of your vibe, but the broadest point of stimulation),” explains Dr. Carlyle.

Another idea to make your man love the idea of toys is purchasing a remote controlled vibrator.

“Put it against or inside of you (depending on the style) and hand him the remote when you are out at a party,” advises Dr. Carlyle. “Tell him he has the control. Rare is the man who will refuse a remote-control. ‎You can then use it on both of you once you get home.”

If neither of these fool-proof methods work, just be straight with your dude.

“If you need a vibrator in order to orgasm, tell him that. Some people need glasses to see, others need a calculator to do math, and some need a vibrator in order to orgasm.”

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