How to Act When Your Ex Shows Up At a Party
If we’re being completely honest, seeing an ex boyfriend unexpectedly is one of the most traumatizing events in a girl’s life. It can be likened to taking the SATs, or visiting the OB/GYN — stuff you really do not want to do, but know you have no choice in at the end of the day.
Keep reading for a little advice on what to do when you’re cornered by a loser from your past while getting your groove back in the present.
1. Don’t freak out.
Of course it’s easy to say, but seriously, you have to chill. One of the worst things you can possibly do upon seeing an ex boyfriend is show your nerves. Don’t give him the satisfaction of knowing that he can still affect you. Channel your inner independent woman. Make Beyoncé proud.
2. Alert your girl squad.
During awkward times like these, you need as much support as possible, and it really can’t get much better than your “OG” girl squad. You consider them your squad for a reason. They’ve got your back on this one.
3. Do a quick mirror check in the bathroom.
You don’t want to look like a hot mess when your ex spots you from across the room, or if he actually tries to speak to you. Casually slide into the bathroom to quickly prevent an accidental nip slip, and make sure you don’t have any lipstick on your teeth.
4. Grab a drink.
You’re going to need at least one drink to either a) swallow the fact that he’s in the same room as you, or b) become drunk-brave enough to face him. Just be careful not to go overboard on the tequila shots, or things could/will get ugly.
5. Pretend that you don’t even notice him.
Yes, there is always the option to be the bigger woman and approach your ex at a party first. If you two are still cordial towards one another, doing so could neutralize any awkwardness that may still be lingering in the air. But then again, you could always just ignore his existence altogether for the remainder of the night.
6. Say goodbye, first.
If you start to feel like you’re over it and even more over him, text one of your girls to meet you at the bar to grab a drink, and politely excuse yourself from the conversation. Perfect exit strategy.
7. Casually flirt with somebody else.
If you’re looking to make your ex jealous, and perhaps feel more in control of the awkward situation, happily enjoying your (hopefully) date, or finding somebody else to flirt with in the room would likely be one of the most efficient ways to do so. Your ex doesn’t want to see you laughing it up with another man.
8. Keep talking to your friends.
Engaging in a direct, singular conversation is one of the easiest ways to ignore an issue you don’t want to deal with, or prevent someone else from talking to you. Besides, I’m pretty sure you’d rather be talking to someone in your crew than paying any attention to him.
9. Keep having fun, even if he brought a date.
Do you, boo! At the end of the day, who cares that he showed up at the same party as you with someone else? Feel free to be your truest self! Take it all out on the dance floor, you’re over him anyway.
If you’re forced to enjoy the same party as your ex, just remember, taking the higher, more mature road is the best indication that you’re actually over him. Also, he’s your ex boyfriend for a reason.