Don’t Worry, Even Kate Winslet Gets Friend-Zoned
Last week, the internet did a collective gasp when Kate Winslet finally revealed why her and Leonardo DiCaprio have never blessed us all by being the world’s most perfect couple: Leo friend zoned the shit out of her.
In her interview with Marie Claire UK, Kate described every-girl-with-a-sexy-guy-friend’s worst nightmare. According to Kate, Leo, “always saw me as one of the boys. I’ve never really been a girly-girl. It’s so disappointing for people to hear that, because in the soap opera of the Kate and Leo story we fell in love at first sight and had a million snogs, but actually we never did.”
It goes on and gets progressively more brutal to read. Way harsh Tai.
The most alarming part about the interview is that Kate Winslet is undeniably Hollywood royalty. She’s smart, incredibly talented, and obviously gorgeous, and somehow is some dude’s bro!? What the f*** does that mean for the rest of peasants!? Ugh!
Stop panicking! We’re here to fix it. First, you’ve gotta just figure out the reason you’re being friend-zoned. There are many different motivations that can cause a dude to shift his perspective on his relationship with you and put you into the friend category. It could be that his friend has a crush on you. Or maybe you guys work/have class together and he’s nervous about the awkwardness that will ensue if you guys end badly. Or could be as simple as the fact that you’ve treated him as a friend and peed in front of him too many times. Whatever it is, you’ve gotta isolate the real reason in order to figure out your next move.
Reason one: You guys will have to be cordial no matter how badly your breakup is. I think this is the most common reason girls get friend zoned (and considering the amount of times they’ve worked together, probably why Kate got friend zoned by Leo). Knowing that if your relationship doesn’t end on amicable terms it’s going to cause major tension at work/school/your social scene is a lot of pressure for a new relationship. It’s a tough one cause at the end of the day you’re probably having the same concerns. This situation calls for some serious evaluating on your end to decide whether its worth it for you. If you decide it is, then you need to have a super open dialogue about what you want and what you’re prepared to guarantee for after your relationship is over in order to move forward from being ‘just friends.’
Reason two: His friend is super into you and he has to keep things platonic in order to avoid drama/hurt feelings. Honestly, idk about this one. Generally, I’d say that you probably don’t want to be getting yourself into some awkward/unromantic/non-chill love triangle and f*** with other people’s friendships. Also, there’s a pretty good chance that you’re into your friend because you think he’s a good dude, loyal, and respects his friendships. Recognizing that this is awkward advice that I probably wouldn’t follow, but the most productive thing to do in this situation (I think) is to talk to the other friend that likes you. Be open about the fact that you’re interested in friend #1 and don’t think that things are going anywhere between you and friend #2. Pretty brutal but kinda mature. Maybe. Idk this situation is always going to be pretty f***ing awkward.
Reason Three: You got too comfortable/you are no longer mysterious/you basically friend zoned him first. This is the easiest fix. Congrats! You win the article! Just start acting a bit more sexy and a bit less not sexy. Maybe stop talking about your period cramps/how bloated you are from those tacos. Seem like you’re busier than you really are and remind him that other dudes think you’re really cool. Lalala.
And always remember that at the end of the day, Kate Winslet is married, with three kids, and starring in three movies in 2015, so it’s all chill.