5 Signs Your Hook Up Buddy Actually Wants To Date You


When booty calls turn into normal recurring instances, you’ve managed to snag a hook up buddy. But sometimes the lines between hook up buddy and something more become hard to define. Although it is usually safe to assume that your casual hook up isn’t going to be your next boyfriend or girlfriend, here are five signs that your hook up buddy wants to wife you on the down low.

1. You spend the night with each other every night. 

Sure, you might spend a lot of nights with certain hook up buddies and it still won’t mean anything. But, spending every single night together is a little bit much. If they’re practically living at your place, have their tooth brush in your bathroom, or it seems like they just never leave your sight ever, they might want something more.

2. They check in on you during the day, frequently. 

One or two ‘how are you’ texts is evidence that your hook up buddy is just a normal decent human being. But if they’re constantly asking you about your day, making conversation, and talking to you from morning til night (on top of spending every night with you) it means they’re interested in you as a person and your life, not just in having sex with you.

3. They want to hang out with you outside of the bedroom. 

You two go to concerts together, see movies together, maybe you’ve even ventured to another borough to do some exploring together. If your hook up buddy is asking you to hang out in a non sexual context, and you find yourself spending all your free time with them, it’s a pretty good sign they want something more out of your current set up.

4. You have long phone conversations. 

Seriously, who talks on the phone now days? I can count the people I have regular personal phone conversations with on one hand. If your hook up buddy has ever called you ‘just to talk’ and you’ve ended up chatting with them for hours on end about what seems like nothing and everything in the same time, they are probably basically in love with you at this point. Ok, maybe not in love, but they definitely have reached Drake level feelings about you.

5. They made you a mixed CD. 

You thought these types of cutesy sickly sweet gestures died in high school, but now you’re hook up buddy is giving you mixed CD after mixed CD and they’re even going above and beyond and decorating the covers of these gifts with art, or messages. It seems kind of cheesy, but at the same time you love it. If this happens, it’s probably time to ask each other ‘what are we, even’ before going any further.

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