Yeah, He Needs To Be A Freak In The Sheets
They say the best relationships are the ones that start off as friends first. You’re able to find out who a person truly is and the not the perception they wish you to see them as. But in this day and age where patience is dying out and everyone wants the next big thing, people don’t have time.
They’re either consumed by work or moving up in work (or drinking) that the idea of getting to know someone for weeks, months, or even years without hooking up is fading. Especially trying to date in the city where sex is almost the equivalent of a hand shake. It’s one of the first things guys do when they meet you and it can say a lot about the type of person you are.
I had this conversation the other day, but I also brought up the fact that some of us don’t have the time to wait. We want what we want, when we want it. And there is absolutely no time to waste. Some of the best relationships can start off as hook up buddies first or a one night stand that turns into the most compatible partnership.
And that in order to have a successful and long lasting relationship, one doesn’t necessarily have to cancel out sex. No one is asking you to shrivel up and go on strike. And although there are a few that say sex is not the most important aspect of a relationship, I beg to differ. If the sex isn’t good or mind-blowing then it will become an issue. Most people who end up cheating usually do so because of this.
I mean sex helps us produce more of the hormone oxytocin which helps us feel the desire to love and trust someone. This is a key part of a relationship in a nutshell: trust and love.
So although we may be mentally compatible with someone, if we don’t feel the same under the sheets then it’s harder to make that relationship develop into something more.