Why Cooking A Meal Together Is The Best First Date
On Monday, I gave you all a run-down on how to calm the f*ck down before a first date, plus some advice about how it’s important to choose a first date setting that allows you to be able to focus on getting to know the other person. Today, I’m suggesting a date idea that is often left until people are in committed relationships together to try out, and that’s cooking a meal together. Sometimes people don’t even consider this a date once they are in relationships with each other, it just seems like a chore. But cooking a meal together can be really romantic, and more importantly, doing it together early on can tip you off to important aspects of the other person’s approach to daily life that will allow you to know if you’re really compatible.
First of all, cooking together provides both of you the face time heavy experience you’ll need on the first date to talk to each other. Another plus of cooking a meal together for the first date is that you can be pretty casual–you don’t even have to leave your own home to do it which can help you to feel comfortable. You could always end up at the other person’s place at well, but either way, staying in will have a decidedly more laid back feel than going out.
Cooking together allows you to see how the person you are dating approaches collaborative situations. Which is important to know before you jump into a relationship with someone, since relationships are entirely a practice in collaboration. You’ll also have to communicate with each other, not just about yourselves, but to accomplish the task at hand. You’ll have to divide up the tasks, which will allow you to get a preview of how much work the person is willing to put into a task you are approaching together. Ultimately, cooking together allows you to gain keen insights about the other person that going out to a restaurant, or grabbing a cup of coffee wouldn’t.
If it goes well, the two of you will probably jive really well, divide up the tasks evenly, and have a good time creating something delicious together. If it goes badly (which in my case, it has), then the other person expects you to do all the work, just doesn’t put in much effort, or you have to tell them how to do each and every step. What does this tell you? That this person lacks key skills in the area of “resourcefulness,” which can say a lot about how they may be in a relationship (not to mention in the bedroom).
Now I’m not saying that if cooking together goes poorly to just drop them as a romantic prospect entirely, but the experience should give you a more thorough understanding of the other person, and allow you to make a more informed decision about whether the two of you are compatible or not.