Snapchat + Sex: A Crash Course For The Millennial
It’s nearly 2016, and we’re long past the days of hand-written love letters and throwing rocks at windows. In fact, we’re actually long past the days of regular phone calls as well. Just think back to the last time a guy actually called you to ask you on a date? So, phone calls are clearly a thing of the past, how are guys contacting ladies then…through texting? Sometimes texting, yes. But, it seems that more often than not, the classic fuck boy’s choice of communicating is through Snapchat.
Why Snapchat? Beside the obvious visuals that boys like so much, there’s always the hope that a chick will decide to send a seductive photo. There’s also the fact that it’s super easy for a guy to mass Snapchat multiple girls at a time (because individually texting “you up?” to 14 girls can be a burden).
There are the dudes whom you know not to respond to on Snapchat: The guys who send shirtless snaps in the dark at 3 am asking “what’s good?” or “wanna hang?” The guys who only Snapchat you after you’ve posted a sexy selfie on your story, or perhaps a bottle of tequila.
But, what about the guys who Snapchat you with visibly good intentions? He’s Snapchatting you during the day and he’s wearing a shirt. He’s asking “how’s work?” and showing you his view from his office. Cool, right? It’s not always a bad thing to have a dude who wants to show you his cute face every once in a while, but it can get old really fast. After all, how are you supposed to snap him back when you’re fresh out of the shower with running mascara, or sweaty as fuck after your zumba class? What about when you’re drunk and you Snapchat him something stupid and can’t even look to see what you sent the morning after?
Even without these struggles, let’s all agree on the fact that Snapchat is a bit childish. If a guy is seriously interested in you, he should communicate with you some other way than via an app that was created for incognito sexting purposes.
But, as girls we don’t exactly know how to move the conversation from Snapchat to a more suitable messenger app. We don’t want to come across as pushy, and we don’t want to make the first move. After all, if you have to explicitly tell a guy to call you, it kind of loses the appeal.
If you’ve been Snapchat- conversing with a dude for more than a few days (I’d give it a week, tops) it’s time to move it along. If he’s interested in more than a booty call or a distraction from work, he should want to move things along too. My advice? Stop responding. If it’s a guy you’re interested in, you probably don’t want to stop responding. You’re thinking, “but what if he never hits me up again?” Trust me, he will hit you up again, and if he doesn’t he clearly wasn’t that interested in you anyways.
He’ll likely Snapchat you again, hoping for a response this time. If you’re really worried he’s not going to get the hint, then fine, snap him back. Personally, I think you should hold out. It might take a couple of days, even weeks, but if he’s interested he’ll figure it out. If you think your guy is too “futuristic” to realize that he should text you instead, give him a hint by saying how Snapchat is using up all of your data or you don’t have enough service to send pictures.
The bottom line is that if a guy isn’t mature enough to realize he needs to win you over with more than just Snapchat selfies, he’s not the right guy for you. After all, if he can’t even put effort into typing out a text message, he’s probably never going to be able to satisfy you in other ways.
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