Slut Shaming of the Bachelorette Needs to Stop

Last night on The Bachelorette‘s season recap and reunion episode, “The Men Tell All,” this season’s bachelorette, Kaitlyn Bristowe, revealed that she gets an astounding amount of hate for the decisions she made while on the show. Those decisions being, the choice she made to have sex with favored contestant Nick, prior to the designated “Ok now you can have sex” episodes, also known as “Fantasy Suites,” in which the bachelorette is allowed to spend the night which a choice few of the men who have made it far enough in the competition.

Kaitlyn revealed to the men she had dated this season and a studio audience that although she can understand and tolerate disagreement with her choices, she regularly gets death threats from angry people on the internet. “I like to think of myself as a tough person … but spreading hate the way people have been is not okay and it’s been hard.” Kaitlyn told Chris Harrelson, before he read aloud a series of tweets and direct messages Kaitlyn has received in the backlash including one in which Kaitlyn was called a “whore” and a “slut” multiple times.

If you’re looking for more evidence of all the hate Kaitlyn has received you can find it in the comments on nearly every Instagram photo she posts. One reads, “you constantly talking about sex is gross and wrong. You were the worst bachelorette and don’t let that Hollywood audience tell you any different”.

Whether the “haters” know it or not, however, Kaitlyn is certainly not the first person on the Bachelor franchise to have slept with the people she is considering or marriage–she just happened to do it outside the confines of a “fantasy” suite. The tweet above criticizes Kaitlyn, suggesting that she “slept with all the guys to see who gave her the best dick” to which any sane woman’s reaction would be, well yeah…exactly. Let’s not forget that the entire show is about finding a husband. The person you’re going to be spending the rest of your life with–at least in theory. The idea that intimacy and sexual compatibility shouldn’t be factored in to the list of criteria that a woman is looking for with regards to the person she plans on spending the next 50-60 years with is absurd. Even if we understand that realistically, most “Bachelor” relationships haven’t lasted longer than a few months past the air dates of the season finale, Kaitlyn seems to be making her decisions on the show based on the idea that she is indeed, looking for a husband, and thus, looking for someone who she gets along with, has some sort of romantic connection with, and yes– someone whose dick she will enjoy on, at least, a semi regular basis.

It makes total sense to sleep with someone before signing the rest of your sexually active years away to being monogamous with just them. I suppose this is a concept a lot of men don’t seem to grasp since they really don’t have to worry about whether the women they sleep with will give them an orgasm or not seeing as most men could have an orgasm by sticking their penises in any range of objects–whether it be a pie, a fleshlight, or you know, an actual vagina.

The fact that the slut shamers of Kaitlyn Bristowe don’t seem to understand the importance of sexual chemistry, or intimacy in a relationship seems to suggest that their hate may be coming from a deeper place– one of intense sexual dissatisfaction in their own lives perhaps?

 

Gimme More Sex + Dating

Do You Like?

Some things are only found on Facebook. Don't miss out.