How to shut someone down for slut shaming your outfit

It’s 2017, and the era of lingerie worn as outerwear is not only upon us but slaying. It’s one of the most trendy styles for this summer, and everyone is rocking the hell out of it. Just last night Charlize Theron took to the red carpet in a Christian Dior bra with a matching high-waisted mini skirt, and it was phenomenal.

But what I’ve come to notice is that instead of embracing what we’re given, and standing tall supporting others for their individuality, people are shaming women for flaunting.

How is slut shaming a woman for what she’s wearing ever going to have a positive impact on you or our society? If anything I feel it’s just perpetuating the chains of the highly conservative standards women have been fighting to end. Hate to make a High School Musical reference but we’re all in this together ladies, whether you’re about it or not!

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One instance that comes to my mind is when I was in Puerto Rico, I was wearing one of those adorable slip dresses that cuts up on the left thigh and has a lil’ lace. The basic ass one every girl that shops at Urban has!

I was walking down the street with boyfriend at the time, and I started noticing women in their late 20’s, maybe 30’s, eyeing me up and down giving me the DIRTIEST looks. I for one am not bothered by glares, it’s a form of flattery.

But what really got to me is when I was outside by myself a woman passing by screamed “cover up” at me. In what fucking world do you have any authority over me to mandate what I can wear? I looked this woman dead in her crow’s-feet and said, “never, girl,” and threw her a nice wink followed by a glowing smile. That’ll be the highest level of flirtation she’ll get for the next five years.

TBH I was feeling myself, I looked great and my boyfriend loved it, so who gives a fuck about your grumpy ass opinion?

Another absurd experience that comes to mind is when one of my best friends was put on blast in a private military wives Facebook group. The user who posted the message went the anonymous angle.

A quick synopsis of the situation: my friend posted a picture of her torso on Facebook. She was wearing a deep cut black, lacy teddy, but the real highlight of the post itself was the showcase of her tattoos. You’d hardly notice what she was wearing because of her awe-inspiring ink, and the craziest part about it is there’s really nothing scandalous about the photo, it just looks like she’s wearing a v-neck tank top.

Now that you have some context, the anonymous wife posted in the group that she saw a “provocative photo” on her husband’s Facebook feed that night. When the woman asked her husband if my friend’s husband knew she was posting those pictures, he said, “Yes he knows, you should be jealous of her.”

Because of this woman’s jackass husband’s response she slut-shamed my friend, saying, “I like southern modesty while in public and not shorts where my ass hangs out while I’m bending over like I’m taking it up the ass for the world to see,” referring to another photo my friend had posted.

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Instead of recognizing her husband’s douchey behavior, she decided to shame my friend. But if something similar ever happens to you, here’s what to do.

Steps to combat haters

1. Make direct eye contact with them

2. Have your most dazzling smile present

3. Either of the following:

Take it as the most genuine compliment. Act like they just said, “You are the most gorgeous human to walk this earth,” and follow it with an “Omg thank you so much for that!”

Be a clever and sarcastic bitch. Someone tells you to put your tits away? You say, “Aww cute! you’ve never seen a pair before?”

Give the finger — a classique.

4. Continue your life and forget the speck of dust that was just in your peripherals!

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