The Real Reason You Shouldn’t Have Sex On The First Date
All dating etiquette of our parent’s generation has been explicitly thrown out the window long ago.
You sleep with someone before you start dating, you know a guys dating history before you’ve even met him in person, it’s weird as hell and our grandparents wouldfreak out if they knew half of the stuff we are doing.
One thing that it seems a reasonable amount of girls cling on to is the rule that they sleep with a guy on the first date. Granted, in this generation the word “date” comes very loosely.
Instead of saying “I’ve never slept with someone on the first date” it would make more sense to say “I’ve never slept with a guy after meeting him for the first time.” Because let’s be real, your first “date” with your boo probably involved a bar, tequila shots, and bad decisions.
Regardless, I’ll have my guy friends complain to me that they don’t see why girls will hold off for one or two dates. They try to explain to me that holding out isn’t going to make them like the chicks more.
However, I’m well aware of this, and if you’re still one of those girls who thinks that withholding lovin’ to make a guy “fall for you” is going to work, you need to check yourself. I know guys who will wine and dine a girl for 7 dates, and as soon as they get in their pants, they dip out.
It blows, but dudes are sneaky little bastards and they know how to get what they want. Which brings me to the point that you should get what you want when it comes to dating. If you want to sleep with a guy on the first date, don’t let backwards rules of “being ladylike” get in your way.
But the real reason I don’t believe in getting intimate on the first date is because in my opinion, casual hookups kind of blow.
Sure, guys will say “hookups are like pizza, even if it’s bad- it’s still pretty good.” Maybe it’s because I’m a girl, but I disagree. The best hookups I’ve had are 100% in long term relationships, and it’s not because I happen to date guys who are Casanovas in the bedroom.
It’s because the longer you’re with someone, the more comfortable you are with them, and the more likely they are to know what you like in bed.
Hooking up might have become super casual and impersonal in our society, but that doesn’t mean it should be bad. Hell, if it’s bad, why the hell would you be having it?
But, if you want to get your mind blown in the bed, take a step back and think about how you’re going to get there.
(P.S. it’s not by taking random dudes home every night)