If You’re Searching For a Soulmate, Do So Less
You got f*cked over. Again.
This wasn’t the first time and it won’t be the last. You really thought this guy was promising. He actually called when he said he would call, and he even had that long hair that you loved.
Why do you keep getting screwed over? Is it because all guys are a**holes? Is it because our dating culture has become so screwed up? Is it because you never got braces as a child?
Maybe it’s because you’re trying too hard.
I know, I know. Nobody wants to hear that. After all, it seems like no one is looking for love these days anymore, just searching for the next free drink or the next quick f*ck.
But maybe the reason love is so special is because instead of you finding it, it finds you.
Even if you don’t believe in “fate” or my tacky words of wisdom that belong on a quilted blanket somewhere, think of it this way:
The reason guys keep screwing you over is because you keep putting too much faith in them too quickly. Again, it’s okay to trust people and not have your guard up all the time (although it’s a dangerous game). But, have you ever stopped to think why you actually like these guys? Because chances are, you don’t even actually like them that much.
Sure, they’re probably half-decent looking, not homeless, and buy you food sometimes…but what else? You might be trying so hard to find “the one” that you’re faking feelings for someone that really isn’t what you even want.
If he really is a sweetheart, he treats you right, and you think it’s worth putting in some effort to see if you can fall for him, do it by all means. But, if he’s an average joe that is probably sexting other chicks while at work, then why are you trying so hard to make “it” happen with him?
Don’t hate me. I am not insulting you. I am only able to write this because I have been there. You probably are missing an old relationship that you once had, and wanting something similar. When you meet a guy that seems like a keeper, you start planning out your future in your head…And when he f*cks up? Treats you like sh*t? Doesn’t hit you up for a week? You think it’s okay because you guys have something going between you two.
Trust me, if you keep trying to turn every average dude into your very own Prince Charming, you’re going to turn into a pumpkin before you can say “bibbity-bobbity-boo.”
It’s okay to like a guy. It’s okay to want things to work. But instead of over-looking obvious flaws because you want someone for your own, take a look in the mirror and realize you’ve got everything you need right there.