If You’re a Material Girl, Watch Your Taste In Men
If you can’t find a guy that’s tall, dark, and handsome, you at least want to find a guy who’s rich, right? There’s nothing like having a bae who can buy bottles at the club, deck you out in a new wardrobe, and never flinch at grabbing the check.
Ever since you were a little girl, you’ve been jokingly told by your relatives to “find a nice rich husband.” You gage a guy’s boyfriend skills by the amount of shit he buys for his significant other. Instead of stalking a dude on Instagram, you’re stalking him on LinkedIn.
While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with preferring men who have their career goals in check, there’s something to be said about a dude who spoils his girl– and it’s not necessarily a good thing.
A man who was raised with his daddy’s credit card in his pocket might have the confidence (and the bank account) to give you what you want, but he’s also been getting everything he wants his entire life. The more spoiled a dude is accustomed to being, the more spoiled he’s likely to act in his relationships. Sure, he might get you some banging gifts, but is it because he adores you? Or because he treats you like an employee (or hooker) that he’s paying? Not to mention, if he can easily buy you a gorgeous gift and get laid, imagine how many other girls he’s pulled the same move on.
Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of guys who come from money that are completely eligible bachelors and have been raised as gentlemen who know how to treat a girl right. But, there are too many girls who seem to put up with a dude’s bad behavior because he treats them to a nice vacation or an expensive gift as an apology. Being bribed to be an obedient partner isn’t cute, and it’s a practice that should have been abolished as soon as women were given the right to work (and therefore make their own moolah). Just like it’s not cool to bribe a guy with blowjobs, it’s not cool for him to bribe you with material things.
While we’re all probably broke chicks in our 20’s who need every extra dollar we can get, there’s still a line to be drawn when it comes to relying on guys to pay for everything. If you’ve got a dude who doesn’t mind picking up the bill every time you go out together, awesome. But if your guy treats you like shit and thinks he can make up for it by buying you a new pair of shoes? That’s not right…in fact, that’s totally wrong.
Instead of putting up with a fuckboy in order to get spoiled, why don’t you get a new job and spoil yourself? Or at least get a new man that makes you feel spoiled without making you feel guilty about it. Don’t forget that some of the guys who might not have the fattest wallets now might be the guys who are making racks later. Instead of chasing guys based on the amount of zeros in their paychecks, chase them for what’s in their hearts…Or at least in their pants? I don’t know, I don’t want to get too deep on you here, but the bottom line is that it’s important to know your self-worth and your pride, no amount of flowers and diamond rings can replace that.