5 Ways To Curve A Dude Who Just Will Not Quit
We’ve all had the unfortunate experience of being harassed by dudes who won’t take no for an answer. They want to take you to drinks and they are going to get you to say yes if it’s the last thing they do. While that kind of attitude is really unhealthy, (if you’re a dude please STOP this!) here are a few ways to curve men with incessant requests.
1. Sternly, but politely, turn him down.
Start by telling him you’re flattered, but you’re not interested. Repeat this if he persists. If you’re scared that he may lash out at you for rejecting him, you can ease the pain by complimenting him. Something along the lines of “I think you’re a really great guy, but I’m not interested in seeing anyone right now”.
2. If he is repeatedly hitting you up on social media platforms, block him.
On all platforms. Block his number, block his Facebook, hell, even block his Twitter and Instagram. If he won’t accept your rejection, erase him and any viable form of communication between you and him from existence.
3. If you can’t block him for some reason, you can tell him you have a boyfriend – or a girlfriend.
If this exchange isn’t taking place in the cybersphere, you can use the tried and true “I’m taken” excuse. Although being another person’s girl shouldn’t be the only reason for someone to leave you alone when you have said you aren’t interested, it is highly effective. Sometimes boys will back down if you tell them you’re not interested because you’re gay. Unfortunately, other times, this has the exact opposite effect, and they become convinced that they will be the one to turn you out, or at the very least, get you to have a threesome (*eye roll*).
4. If he won’t stop asking you out in real life, make a note to avoid him.
It really shouldn’t escalate this far, but if it does, and someone keeps persisting and won’t leave you alone, try to avoid running into him as much as possible. When you know you have to see him, bring a friend (or two) along with you who knows about the situation and will be able to distract him, deflect his advances, or get you out of there if you need to exit. Boys who don’t take no for an answer aren’t being romantic by trying to “sweep you off your feet” to get you to give them a chance, they are violating your boundaries. So stay clear of them if you feel like you need to.
5. Tell him to back the f*** off.
If all else fails, it’s time to get more aggressive. While being this aggressive usually is not necessary, if someone is repeatedly asking you out, cornering you at parties, or following you around begging for a chance even after you have told them no on more than a few occasions, you are perfectly entitled to telling this person to f*** right off. Do gauge the situation, however. Sometimes being mean will only make “persistent” men more angry, and things could escalate. If you think this might be the case, you may want to go with this: “I do not want to date you, f*** you, or be remotely romantically involved with you in any way whatsoever now or in the near or distant future”.