He Wasn’t Your Soulmate, He Was a Lesson

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Remember that guy that made you crazy? Made you passionate? Made you selfless?

Then remember when he broke your heart into tiny pieces?

Maybe it was something he did, maybe it was something you did, maybe you two just couldn’t get along anymore. But, either way, you probably still think about him. You wonder… what if? What if we had met at another time? In another place? Under different circumstances?

Do you believe in soulmates?

Whether your answer is yes or no, I’m sure you believe that one day you’re going to find someone out there who completely gets you and is as in love with you as you are with them. If you do believe in soulmates, maybe you still have a little hope in your mind that one day you and that guy are going to meet in the future and be perfect for each other again.

You need to stop thinking that.

You know why?

Because if you believe in soulmates, you believe that whoever created the human race has created someone that compliments you perfectly. You probably also believe in fate, and the saying that “everything happens for a reason.”

Think back to that person that will forever hold a place in your heart… No, not about the perfect times, about the bad times. What did that person teach you?

Maybe he taught you not to be so trusting, maybe he taught you that love exists, maybe he taught you not to be so self-centered. Whatever it was, you now look at relationships differently, and you are a better person.

Yes, the heartbreak sucked, and maybe it still sucks. Maybe you don’t foresee a day where you will ever completely forget about that person, and that’s okay. But you’re alive, and you got through it (or soon will). And you know what? You’re a better person because of it. Because when you find someone else that you want to be in a relationship with, you’ll ditch your selfishness, clinginess, impatience; whatever it was that fell short in your last relationship, and you’ll be a better partner.

While you’ve been telling yourself this entire time that fate brought you two together, maybe fate brought you two together because you needed to fall apart. After all, practice makes perfect, right? A better you will lead to a better new partner.

Never regret your last relationship, but realize that now is the time to move on.

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