Having A Lot Of Sex Doesn’t Mean You’re A Slut, But It Could Mean Something Else

I’m not sure where the stereotype got started that women don’t like sex as much as men, but that’s bullshit. We love sex. Sex is awesome. The problem isn’t that we don’t like sex, the problem is that we have been judged and shamed the second we admit that we do in fact like it. We’re called sluts, whores, skanks, and not just from men either, we as women are culprits as well. But it seems this puritanical view is shifting, women are no longer expected to be the perfect little housewife anymore. We haven’t reached gender equality yet, but we’ve been making great strides with women having access to education, more women in positions of power, and greater access to birth control, allowing a woman to be more independent. All of these things have created a society that is more accepting of women having more sex and being more promiscuous rather then waiting for marriage and just having sex to procreate. Celebrate ladies, we are heading towards a future that allows us to do it as much as we want without being made to feel like shit about it!

So having a lot of sex doesn’t mean you’re a slut, that has never been true, but women are finally starting to believe it. However, being more promiscuous could mean a few other things. It could mean that you “are more naturally inclined to risk-taking behaviors because of the way dopamine works in [your] body and have a tendency toward sensation seeking, novelty seeking, and impulsiveness,” according to Yahoo. Nothing wrong with that, go have a hot one night stand or a crazy threesome. Just don’t let one night of impulsive sex affect the rest of your life, wear a condom, get birth control; being risky doesn’t mean you have to be stupid.

Being more promiscuous has not just been associated with a genetic predisposition for risk-taking behavior, it has also been associated with mental health issues. Now obviously this doesn’t mean that everyone who has a lot of sex has a mental health issue, but it is a possibility. Increased promiscuity is a symptom of bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder. If you’ve noticed a spike in your libido for no particular reason, it couldn’t hurt to go see a psychologist or psychiatrist. If you do have something going on they will be able to get you help and if not at least you know for sure and you got to complain to a stranger about your problems for an hour, everyone wins.

Having a lot of sex is great, props to you and keep doing what you’re doing. You are not a slut, but a confident and independent woman who makes her own choices about her body. But that doesn’t mean you aren’t untouchable; you still need to be responsible. If you notice you’re a risk-taker and impulsive person, just make sure those behaviors don’t fuck up the rest of your life. If you notice a crazy increase in your sex drive, maybe check out why to make sure it’s not something to do with your mental health. Have sex, just don’t be stupid.

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