Who Knew This Was How You’re Supposed To Get Over Heartbreak?
There are a lot of things that us girls do when we get hurt by a guy, and 90% of the time, they’re the things we shouldn’t be doing. I’m talking about going out and drinking until we forget (shoutout Bebe Rexha), sleeping with the next guy who gives us attention, or simply denying the fact that said dude actually hurt you.
You know how you’re supposed to mourn the death of a loved one? Apparently, you’re supposed to mourn a heartbreak too.
A study conducted at Northwestern University found that the best way to get through a break-up is to take some time to reflect on what went wrong and how you feel about it. In the study, 210 students who had experienced a breakup in the last six months were split into groups. The individuals who were asked to discuss their breakups in interviews and in questionnaires showed significant signs of decreased feelings of loneliness and obsessive thinking.
If you’re like me, you probably went through your last break-up with a poker face. Sure, you were upset, but you dove right back in to normal life and acted like the loss of your boo didn’t phase you at all, right?
Fast forward three months later and you find yourself downing two bottles of wine and crying over that same ex-boyfriend...
Emotions are complicated, and while you might want to look like the tough chick that I know you are, science says otherwise. Next time you go through a tough time with a dude (although hopefully that’s not soon), do yourself a favor and sit down with your best girlfriend and vent, because big girls do cry (sometimes).