Stop Comparing Yourself to Kim Kardashian: Find your SELFie!
Every day there’s always something new going on in the world of Kim Kardashian, Lana Del Rey, and other beauties we love to follow on social media, as well as constantly obsess over. How do they look so perfect (at all times?) How is her waist so tiny? Look at her boobs, look at her lips, look at how magical her hair is, look at how clear her skin is. Damn I wish my ass looked like THAT! Is that even real? The list goes on and on. We do this with girls around us as well (at least I know I do). When my eyes aren’t glued to my cell phone, I notice some of the babes around me. (I am forced to look up when I have no service on the subway). I wonder to myself if any of these girls are sneakily staring at me too? Maybe they like my black lipstick? Maybe not.
Constantly I find myself pondering all of these things, consistently comparing myself to everyone around me. F*** that. That does nothing but make you a.) jealous b.) sad c.) angry d.) all of the above. Comparison solves nothing. I was told by a friend that ‘Comparison is the root of all evil. It can take over your life and become an obsession.’ Now I’m not going to sit here and say we won’t ever compare ourselves to another girl we see, we ARE humans you know. What I AM saying however, is that we need to cut this out as soon as we find ourselves doing it. Instead of worrying about those other girls, we need to turn the focus to ourselves.
- Remember: We are NOT the same. We are NOT interchangeable. – a friend of mine shared this with me and it really resonated well with me. It’s a fact. We are all different. Don’t resent your imperfections, embrace them! Imperfections give you character. Imperfections are what make you YOU!
- BE confident – Hold your head high (you’re a boss bitch!) You can truly do whatever you want in this life and it all starts with confidence (and BALLS! Well, lady balls). Confidence to speak your mind, confidence to keep eye contact the entire time, confidence to make each day yours. There was a quote I saw once and I see it pop up at the most random times & it goes a little something like this:
“Wake up every morning and tell yourself you’re a badass bitch from hell and that no one can f*** with you and then don’t let anybody f*** with you”.
- Find your niche – Discover what it is that really feeds your soul and focus a lot of energy into that. Research about it, read about it, incorporate it into your daily life somehow.
- Positive affirmations – Write down what it is you love about yourself or what you love about your life, your current projects, how happy you are that you’ve finally mastered cooking your favorite dish, etc. You SHOULD be proud of yourself. You’ve got it going on. Make your list meaningful. If you don’t have the time to physically write it down, say that shit out loud! Wake up in the morning and tell yourself how much you love..everything! Nothing wrong with tooting your own horn from time to time. Take notes from Jessica. Jessica gets it…..