Why You Shouldn’t Let a Guy Treat You Like a Hooker Unless He’s Paying You
Girls get a bad rep.
We’re clingy, we’re indecisive, we’re always looking for a boyfriend, we get emotional too quickly.
In attempts to shed these gender stereotypes, some girls try very hard to do the complete opposite. If a guy gets it in and then peaces out before you can even put your high-waisted shorts back on? It’s fine. If he cancels plans with you for the third time in a row, no biggie.
As much as every chick wants to be described as the “chill girl” who doesn’t get her panties in a knot, you’re not fooling anyone. Your crush doesn’t think that you’re low maintenance, he thinks you’re a tool (not to mention pathetic).
I’m all for girls having the same game as dudes, but there comes a time when it boils down to being true to yourself.
Wanting to cuddle with someone doesn’t make you “crazy,” it makes you human. If you were to ask my friends, they’d say I’m the opposite of emotional. But guess what? If a guy tries to sleep with me and run out the door without so much as a hug? I can’t act like that makes me feel good, it makes me feel like a hooker, and one that doesn’t even get paid.
I can’t lie, some of you girls really are a little cuckoo. While I’m not advising that you unleash your 10 year plan to your next hook-up, you also shouldn’t try to be somebody that you’re not. Do you think you’re going to have a good time faking your way through a relationship? That’s not love, that’s desperation…and it’s all fake.
Being a “cool girl” doesn’t mean not having standards. It doesn’t mean getting around, or being someone’s Plan B. You are already a cool girl, even if the dude you’re crushing on says you’re “not his type.”
If one-night stands make you feel used, don’t have them. If you don’t have the time to tolerate guys who flake on plans? Ditch them. If you really like a guy but he’s only interested in that one thing? Get rid of him before he breaks your heart!
I know that it’s easier said that done. But take a real good look at yourself. Is anybody really so great that they deserve to treat you like garbage? You shouldn’t think twice before saying “no” to that.
You ever wonder why some girls always seem to have boyfriends? Because they put up with the bullsh*t that you won’t stand for. Maybe they have someone to go home to at night more often than you do, but they also are selling themselves short.
Instead of trying to fit into the mold of what a certain person is lusting for, try being yourself. It’s a whole lot easier, I promise.