Can You Ditch Your Ex, But Keep His Friends?
Dating someone new is always an exciting time. Everything is a first together. First dinner, first kiss, first art exhibit, first time meeting his parents, and first time meeting his friends. For the most part meeting his friends is nerve racking, but once you begin to see them more and more, they begin to feel like your friends as well.
Which brings me to the question of what the hell happens once your relationship ends? We all know that taking sides is childish and beneath is, but we still do it.
Some people start to feel territorial over their friends because they were the ones who introduced you to them when you two were dating. This is true, but does it also mean that once your relationship ends, your relationship with his friends ends too?
I don’t think that’s fair at all.
Maybe you weren’t entirely close with all of his friends, but there is always at least one friend you really cared about. Maybe you two always crashed at his place or visited him at work or he got you a birthday gift for crying out loud. It’s the simple gestures that turned them from your boyfriend’s friend, to yours as well.
I mean, I know my ex deleted me from Instagram, but I am also aware of the fact that he still likes my friend’s pictures. And it doesn’t bother me. He broke up with me, not my friends. So he can keep liking or commenting or whatever his heart desires.
But what I’m trying to get at though is are there boundaries when it comes to an ex and his friends? And aside from cutting our ex out of our life, do we have to cut his friends out as well?
Or are we mature enough to see that even if we were introduced to someone through an ex, whatever friendship formed along the way is still the same?