I May Be Cold, But I Have A Heart
Some of us girls go through the dating scene as having already been mistreated and completely f*cked up from someone in our past. Which essentially will only f*ck us over in our next relationship because maybe we can’t fully grasp the communication or trust aspects.We’re afraid to open up completely and be vulnerable. We distance ourselves in order to make the break-up less painful.
We’ve been scarred and burned. Not literally though. But with all of that internal and emotional stuff.
However, even though I may be a tad damaged, it doesn’t mean I don’t want to be in a relationship. Sure, guys have to probably work a little harder to convince me to settle down. Especially since my heart is more guarded than Kim Kardashian at Paris Fashion Week. But there are ways to break me down.
I’ve only ever found one guy that I was able to let down my guard with. But it ended so terribly that it f*cked up the previous relationship I was in. That didn’t mean I wasn’t committed in the relationship. Hell, I was extremely stoked. I just need more patience and time to open up. But it came down to him not being able to wait and essentially walking out of the relationship altogether.
What I’m trying to get at though is how some of us may come off extremely cold or distant, but it doesn’t mean we aren’t looking for a relationship. Or that we’re looking up to buy a few cats to settle down with. We just need a little extra time to allow ourselves to open up to our partner.
Take Katarina from 10 Things I Hate About You, my spirit animal. Sure, she may come off as super badass (I’m over using the word b*tch), but that was only because she had something happen to her that changed her views on love and dating. However, once she met the right guy who managed to win her over, she took the chance.
So as some men may write us off as not the relationship type, f*ck them. They don’t understand the hurt we’ve been through, but the right guy will. And that’s enough to hold on to.