Chris Brown Is Still Harassing Karrueche and Everyone Still Thinks It’s Romantic
We have to stop romanticizing Chris Brown’s behavior towards Karrueche Tran. Or worse, blaming Karrueche for it.
Chris Brown is back to calling Karrueche a bitch on social media and somehow, people still think they’re meant to be. His scary obsession with her is being justified by how great she must be in bed, but it’s really just another way we hold women accountable for the actions of their abusers.
Just take a look at this victim-blaming shit show of tweets:
Karrueche likes the attention Chris brown is giving her cuz if she didn’t, she would’ve blocked him like any normal person
— Hibz (@Adolfhibsta) January 1, 2017
I want Rih and Chris together but then I want Karrueche and Chris together 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
— Butter (@tyleerandco) December 27, 2016
I need to fuck @karrueche to shit what kind of pussy she got where rich niggaz got emotional ctfu
— Ceezar-P (@CeezP) January 5, 2017
Karrueche’s pussy is gold…..
— ᵐʷᵉᶰᵍᵉᶤ (@fredrick_lamar_) January 4, 2017
Last year, Chris Brown was following Karrueche, going so far as to bang on the windows of her SUV after a club night.
Last month, Karrueche posted a photo on Instagram, to which Chris Brown commented, “I still want it!”
Chris Brown is like the annoying fuckboy who keeps popping up in your life to see if you’re ready to cave and give him another shot.
Most recently, Soulja Boy and Chris Brown have been going back and forth on social media over her. Karrueche reacted to the beef, posting on Instagram, “This isn’t cool or funny..it’s draining..not just for me..but for everyone.”
And that right there is exactly why I’m tired of everyone being so complicit in the Chris Brown/Karrueche Tran drama. While we keep consuming this as entertainment and painting this as a love story, Chris Brown is proving time and again that he is an abuser. His behavior is exhausting to Karrueche, a victim, and we’re watching it play out on a public level while we just munch on our popcorn.
Chris Brown most recently posted on Instagram telling Karrueche to “shut up and get ya money.” He issued the reminder that she only has friends and fame because of their relationship (not true — bb girl is a star and it’s not her fault she happened to date Chris Brown when she hadn’t popped off yet). He also referred to her as a “dumbass” and a “bitch,” which is abusive — and not the first time he’s called her a bitch.
If Chris Brown is willing to call Karrueche a bitch on social media, I’m 5000% convinced he called her one in private during their relationship. When we examine the definition of emotional and verbal abuse, we see that Chris Brown more than meets the requirements.
According to loveisrespect.com:
Emotional abuse includes non-physical behaviors such as threats, insults, constant monitoring or “checking in,” excessive texting, humiliation, intimidation, isolation or stalking.
There are many behaviors that qualify as emotional or verbal abuse, including:
- Calling you names and putting you down.
- Yelling and screaming at you.
- Intentionally embarrassing you in public.
- Preventing you from seeing or talking with friends and family.
- Telling you what to do and wear.
- Damaging your property when they’re angry (throwing objects, punching walls, kicking doors, etc.)
- Using online communities or cell phones to control, intimidate or humiliate you.
He’s done everything on the list except for telling her what to wear and preventing her from seeing her loved ones, as far as we know.
This isn’t the first time Chris Brown has been abusive. Many of us recall the haunting photos of Rihanna’s face after he assaulted her. And people still want them to get back together, today, in 2017.
The fact that Chris Brown’s career managed a comeback after that or that we can still support either union is evidence that our culture really doesn’t take domestic abuse as seriously as we should. And now that it’s a different woman, his behavior is being justified by blaming it on her amazing sex game rather than on the fact that abusers are abusive. It’s the same old “he’s mean to you because he likes you” trope and it’s dangerous.
I just wanna know which of CB’s songs changed your life so much that you’d overlook years of constant abuse. Wall to Wall?
— Satan Herself (@kremedelakitty) January 3, 2017
So if everyone could call Chris Brown the abuser that he is, rather than equating abuse to love, that would be great.
I haven’t downloaded any of his music in over a year and I keep patiently waiting for his loyal fans to wake the fuck up. Our culture has really shown us that violence against women will never alter a man’s position of power but we need to see it as unforgivable if we’re ever going to stop it.