Kinky Canes 101: How to Use a Cane As a Toy

When Carmen Electra dished about her favorite R-rated toy to Khloe Kardashian on Kocktails With Khloe, you may have been a bit surprised to hear her mention a cane. When Khloé admitted to owning a cane as well, you were probably even more confused.

However, while the rest of America sat scratching their heads about what kind of nursing home toy these celebs were using, I was laughing at the cluelessness of the general population. Sure, if canes had been used in 50 Shades of Grey people would know what they were, right? Unfortunately for the mass media, 50 Shades of Grey doesn’t even begin to cover the world of S&M. In fact, anyone interested in BDSM would say that 50 Shades of Grey is for weaklings because, frankly, it is.

A cane is a tool used to punish. Similar to a whip, belt, flogger, or any other toy used in the bedroom, its purpose is to inflict the slightest bit of pain, but to keep it on the borderline between pain and pleasure. Canes are probably one of the most painful tools used for spanking, because of their hardness and thinness. The thinner the cane you use, the more painful the sting will be.

In fact, before canes were used by sexual deviants, they were used for corporal punishment (and still are in select countries). The canes were traditionally made from rattan and administered “strokes” or cuts onto the victim. These strokes could leave redness, bruises, or even permanent scars.

Obviously, when used by two consensual partners, there should be no scars left. Just like in any BDSM relationship, it is important to discuss limits and have a “safe word” should the submissive experience too much pain.

If you are interested in experiencing a caning just like Carmen, hold your horses. Unless you or your partner have had proper training using a cane, try getting a flogger or paddle first. A cane is one of the most painful and advanced S&M accessories, and you should proceed with caution.

“The cane is the most advanced toy in a top’s arsenal,” warns Terry, an associate at Frisky Business Boutique. “The cane is not something you can use properly and responsibly without receiving training — not without causing bruising or injury to the person being caned — and they certainly are not as easy to use as, say, a flogger, slapper or paddle.”

Because of the potential for misuse, many adult shops do not sell canes to customers online. However, good old Amazon doesn’t disappoint if you’re looking to order one ASAP. They have traditional rattan canes like this, luxe leather options, and “beginners” canes like this one.

Lovehoney Red Room Coll Cane, $59.98, Amazon

In fact, maybe it’s better to let professionals like Carmen Electra deal with the dangerous toys, there’s nothing wrong with a good old fashioned hand-to-ass spanking after all.

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