Beyonce and Ronda Rousey Remind Us, Be a ‘Diva’ Not a ‘Do-Nothing Bitch’
Post-and-pre-VMA’s, all we’ve heard about is angry Twitter arguments pitting “pop stars against pop stars”, and women calling other women bitches, we haven’t even had time to think about the actual performances or what these women are actually doing. Instead of turning our focus to the positive, these famous females have given us something else to draw attention to; the pointless, narcissistic drama. However, this weekend, Beyonce took to her hubby’s stage at the Made In America festival in Philly to remind us all that ‘divas’ can’t be sitting around on their laptops or iPhones, yelling out assumptions and accusations at one another. This is the behavior of a “do-nothing bitch,” in the words of MMA champion Ronda Rousey. So ladies, let’s get back to work.
If you needed a brief refresher of Rousey’s speech, she explains, “I have this one term for the kind of woman that my mother raised me to not be. And I call it a do-nothing bitch. A kind of chick that just tries to be pretty and be taken care of by somebody else. That’s why I think it’s hilarious when people say my body looks masculine or something like that. Listen, just because my body was developed for a purpose other than f—ing millionaires, doesn’t mean it’s masculine. I think it’s femininely badass as f— because there’s not a single muscle in my body that isn’t for a purpose. Because I’m not a do-nothing bitch.
Beyonce played the speech just before breaking into ‘Diva’, another Yonce-empowering single reinforcing women that we are in fact, hustlers as well. So she didn’t explicitly direct this move at anyone in particularly, and we aren’t pointing fingers either, but let’s get our shit together and stick together. There’s no need for dramatized internet arguments or public bitch-shaming, and there are very simple steps to not being a “do-nothing bitch”:
Focus on yourself. And this means in all aspects. Don’t be worrying your pretty little head over “this bitch that had a lot to say about you the other day in the press” or the bartender who you gave your number to who never called you back. You know you, so why does what someone else says about you, or what someone doesn’t say, matter enough to bring out your nasty side or sad-girl sulk?
Be proud of yourself, and you won’t need anyone else’s affirmation to make you feel accomplished. If you’re aware of your own accomplishments, give yourself a pat on the back. This way, that confidence you have in yourself will radiate off you, and people will notice it without you having to ask them to.
Answer your own questions, and solve your own problems. It’s okay to ask for advice but when it comes down to it, you’re the only one who can make moves for you. Like Rousey said, don’t be the kind of chick who waits to be taken care of by someone else. Take care of yourself first and someone else will want to go the extra mile for a girl who has it all already.
Don’t be afraid to say what you want. If you don’t, how is anyone going to know? No one can read your mind; not your man, your boss, your best friend, despite that freaky telepathy thing you guys usually have going on. If you voice your wants and needs and someone can’t give you those things, then it’s on you to decide to move on.