10 Reasons Being Single Is The Best Thing Ever
Sure, having a significant other can be fun, but sometimes not having one can be so much better. Here are ten moments in your life when you were silently thanking the cosmos that you were single.
1. You have 8,000 things on your to-do list and it isn’t getting any shorter any time soon.
Whether your career is taking off, or you’re just overloaded with school work– having a boyfriend can be a serious distraction from doing what needs to be done. That’s because healthy relationships take both time and effort to cultivate from both sides, but finding that time and effort can be seriously difficult to muster when you’re trying to accomplish everything all at once. When you’re in a relationship and work, school, or a combination of both are consuming all of your time and attention, inevitably your significant other will start to resent you for not paying them the attention they deserve. Not having to worry about anyone’s well being but your own is surprisingly freeing and allows you to really make the decisions that will personally fulfill you. And that’s important.
2. You get to wear whatever you want, whenever you want.
Whether it’s those high waisted shorts that every dude seems to hate (listen boys, it’s time to get over it), or the plain cotton underwear that is SO much more comfortable than a lace thong– you don’t have to cater to anyone but yourself. And catering to you has never felt better.
3. You actually see your friends on a regular basis.
Did you forget you had friends? Did your last relationship have you holed up inside your apartment with sweatpants on, a steady stream of delivery take out, and Netflix on ceaselessly for days–no–weeks on end? Well, now that you’re single you actually get to, I don’t know, see the light of day and socialize with the people who love you most. Take this as the gift that it truly is. Revel in it.
4. Your money, is your money.
You didn’t have shared banks accounts when you were in a relationship (hopefully!) but sometimes it seemed like you did. Whether you were constantly having to lend your significant other money, or if a large portion of your budget seemed to be constantly going towards purchasing gifts, (there are SO MANY HOLIDAYS) expensive date nights (why are movies so expensive this is ridiculous!), or couples vacations, being in a relationship can get really expensive. Now you can spend your money on the things you really want.
5. No one is asking you if you’ve finished getting ready yet.
The freedom of being able to allot whatever amount of time you deem fit for selecting your outfits, doing your make up, and blow drying your hair without someone asking you if you’re finished every five minutes is strangely liberating.
6. You’re free to hook up with whoever you like, whenever you like.
Did you forget about the infinite amounts of beautiful people in the world? There truly are so many hot people, and now, you don’t have to feel guilty about thinking about the hot girl who you almost made out with that one time… you can just…make out with her, absolutely no repercussions.
7. You have time to cultivate and pursue your personal interests.
Being in a relationship is all about compromising, which, will ensure that both people are as happy as they can be with each other, but isn’t it so much nicer when you don’t have to compromise anything and you can actually do what you want, instead of what your significant other wants? Whether it is seeing the films you want to see, taking a dance classes, or going to see your favorite band live, the freedom of being able to do what you want, without having to consider someone else’s desires is actually amazing.
8. Your feelings are the only feelings you have to worry about.
In any relationship it is important to always take time to understand where your partner is coming from. If there is a misunderstanding, argument, or disagreement, taking time to put yourself in their shoes and see where they are coming from, even just for a few minutes, can help you both communicate and empathize with each other. This isn’t always easy though, and frankly sometimes being accountable in this way can be mentally exhausting. Luckily when you’re on your own, you no longer have to constantly check in with a whole other person, now you can focus on you and take your self care up to a whole new level.
9. You get to pick the music. 100% of the time.
You will be listening to Rihanna’s Bitch Better Have My Money, and there isn’t a damn thing anyone can say to you about it.
10. Ultimately, you have time time and emotional space to just be you and make yourself happy.
Your happiness should never depend entirely on one person, and simply being in a relationship for the sake of being in one, should never be the goal. You should want to be with someone else, not because you can’t live without them. On the contrary, you should be able to live without them, but instead, choose to spend your time with them. That makes the time you spend with your significant other all the more valuable and meaningful. Ultimately, whether you’re with someone, or on your own– you should be able to feel happy and fulfilled.